Guilt and Shame

Unresolved feelings of guilt or shame can come back and haunt us particularly when we feel down or if a situation arises that is similar to whatever caused the initial problem. They can affect our levels of self esteem and cause worry and anxiety.

Guilt and shame have a purpose. They are usually feelings that help you think about behaving differently in the future. In a perfect world we would simply learn from our mistakes, stop feeling guilty or ashamed (or even humiliated), and move on with our lives, hopefully a little wiser.

But often it doesn’t seem to work like that. For some reason these feelings can continue to give you pain and discomfort long after the event. You might have attacks of the ‘if onlies’ (if only I hadn’t said…if only I hadn’t done…you know the sort of thing) or you may have problems with putting yourself down (what an idiot I was…stupid, stupid me).

Let’s face it, we all make mistakes. We all have events in our lives that we wish hadn’t happened. For some of us they may be huge, life-changing or traumatic. Even so, should we have to endure the chronic self-doubt and suffering that guilt or shame can bring? Something happened. We won’t forget it. But I don’t believe we should have to suffer for it for the rest of our lives.

What can be done to help?

If you are troubled by guilty feelings then you will benefit from some serious letting go. With advanced hypnotherapy and thought field therapy I can help you:

• Put the past behind you, where it belongs
• If appropriate, take any learning from the event so that it can properly serve you in the future
• Resolve unwanted feelings of guilt and shame that are pulling you down
• Eliminate unhelpful self talk or internal dialogue (the ‘if onlies’ and doing yourself down)
• Regain your self belief and confidence
• Move forward and live with yourself comfortably again

So if you are affected by guilt, shame, humiliation or any related feelings, do give me a call on 01206 299724 or email me via my contact page.